This is my Awakening.

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I sometimes lay awake at night contemplating my life. It feels so foreign to me as if I’m a strange alien looking in on this planet having never really understood or fit into it, no matter what or how much I try!
I believe in God, I really do but honestly, sometimes it feels as if it’s forgotten or ignoring me! Other times the most strangest and often it’s the smallest of things happen which gives me hope that it’s out there looking over me, caring for and about me!
Then I get to moments like this, where I wonder ifs it’s deceiving me, tricking me into believing, or it’s being like all those other people in the world who say they care for me when all want is something from me, they dismiss me with hurtful sentences or just simply ignore my presence when I’m in their company, sharing the same space and air!
Sadly, this is my understanding of what “love” looks like and even though I know there is a healthier more beautiful version out there, this is the version that is always presented to me! I have tried so hard to change the pattern; positive thoughts, change of lifestyle, mantras etc but it is so very hard to change the hard-wiring when you live with those who created the belief in the first place!
I pray to God for help and silence ensues! No sign, no word, no indication that there is a better life for me out there! So I lay awake wondering why and wishing I had something to smoke or drink to take it away!!!!
It’s a question that I have been asking for years, since I was a child but, nothing seems to be improving or growing in my life and I sit and wonder if it is worth it!
The simple sentence of “it’s a beautiful day, shame to miss it” plays through my darkest thoughts so I never go too dark but, I do wonder can it and WILL it ever change for the better!
I know people that have depression and anxiety come out the other side and end up making a good and happy life for themselves also, those who didn’t have the easiest or most loving childhood, those who do not have the support they need, those who were bullied, abused and ostracised! Yet, I can’t figure it out! How did they do it? Sometimes I feel so alone in the world, adrift on a boat at sea; wondering, lost and no sign of being saved!
Nothing has been given to me, not the important things in life! I am essentially in the same place as I was 30 years ago and that is depressing, exhausting and confusing! I try my best and yet nothing! What am I to do! I am so full of bullshit! I don’t want to be! I have worked hard and made sacrifices not to be but, in the end, that is exactly what I am!!!
I am worse than the other “bullshit offenders” because I thought I was authentic and truthful but in the end, underneath it all… I am full of bullshit!!!
How to move forward and clear the bullshit?! We just do … we keep waking up each morning and try and do our best, be our best self and KEEP living!
There is still a hope that one day in some way it will all figure its self out and I will get the career that I am working towards, have the house and family I dreamed of and experience love in its best and purest form as I have seen from afar!
This is my awakening! I thought I had it before when I made the decision to go into the Arts but, with the death of my love one coinciding with this blog where I can write out, channel and expose my thoughts, behaviour and beliefs … something else is happening here! Something positive!!! I recognised it as I am writing!!! Like all other life changing experiences I have to get through the painful birth and leave the comfort of the old (womb) to get to the new life! (I do love this analogy, it is accurate way of describing the process of these types of experiences!)
My old self identity is breaking and I subconsciously knew this as I am aware of the topics of my blog post but, I see it clearer now. Everything I write I believe, just not always at that moment in time. It is preparing me, for something better, truer, joyful and fulfilling as that is what takes up my most of my thoughts, my need and what to fulfil my purpose which includes helping others somehow but, also helping myself!! Fill our hearts until our cup runneth over”
Wishing YOU joy and laughter,
Always,
MsIHaveAVoice
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Life and Death – Friend or Foe?

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“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”

Death is such a funny concept! It has been such a strange experience to lose such a close loved one. Who, as you experience the loss, you realise what a large and influencing part of your life they really were!

This changes so much of my core identity now. I took her for granted, always expecting her to be around. The second mother who looks after you! Cares for you! Always! Has now been lost to me and is no longer a part of my life. How do we move forward?

At first, you know you begin to repress the hurt; the brain has no way of comprehending such a major loss, so a weird survival instincts kick in and you function, we organise and somehow survive the loss, “getting through” those first couple of days. You go through a week or two and you believe yourself to be surviving until you sit in your quiet moment and realise that you have not been sleeping, your eating pattern have been non-existent and the lack of care you’ve been treating yourself has basically gone unchecked!

The loss, it still flows through me. But we survive! How??? We must begin with looking after ourselves, it might not reduce the loss but, it might increase the healing! For that’s all I look for, some way to move forward, without this profound feeling of sadness!

My brain refuses to comprehend the understanding that I know I will get to a time where I am almost used to her not being here! What my life would look like with her having not been in it. My life; who I was going to be and the direction it was taking has now completely been changed by this experience!

I am currently going through a major life changing experience in my life; in the eye of the storm hoping at the end of all of this something positive comes out of it… A drive to achieve and experience all life has to offer, for it is too short and fragile and MUST BE lived to the fullest!!!! Go after the things you want, love whomever you want, be whoever you want to be, be you so completely and utterly in the most fullest way!

She continues to teach me and enrich my life even in her death and all I can think in this moment is, how grateful I am to have had her in my life! So my final words of this post will simply be… thank you!

Go out into the world and live life fully,

Sincerely,

MsIHaveAVoice